Therapist for Gifted Adults
If you process information faster than most, therapy can feel like a waste of time. Start working with a therapist for gifted adults and get a fresh perspective (results too).
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Bored, Unfulfilled...
Will Hunting in real life. Extraordinary capacity, ordinary circumstances. No clear path forward and no one who really gets it. Bored, unfulfilled, and misunderstood.
If life feels like Groundhog Day (the same day, over and over), there's something you're not aware of. You might see patterns others miss, "see around corners", and find yourself waiting for others to catch up and go deeper. But your subjective reality is yours. And you're likely creating it compulsively... completely on autopilot.
Instead of waiting (and wanting) for the outside world to change, you go 'upstream' and start paying attention to the qualities that you're giving these stimuli. The result is an empowering, fresh perspective to anything and everything. All of your interpersonal relationships shift. Your relationship to yourself changes. And you're no longer at the whims and mercies of your environments and the people in it. Instead of being driven by your beliefs, you realize you're the believer.
- Bored and unfulfilled despite external achievement
- Struggling to connect... relationships feel surface-level
- Toggling between superiority and inferiority, depending on the context
- Misunderstood by peers, colleagues, family, and even therapists
Self-Sabotage
Getting Out of Your Own Way
Getting clear and intentional with 'what you want' helps reveal your competing goals. It's easy to find yourself working to avoid 'what you don't want', but this is compulsive. And as you'll learn, is self-sabotage.
Teleology
This is the study of purposes. For example, "What is this for?", "What is it doing for you?", "How is this bringing you closer to your goals?" This type of therapy shifts your focus from the past and places your attention on the present (with purpose in mind).
Mindfulness
Mindfulness is a skill to learn. Instead of living in your subjective reality, you start observing reality objectively. It's like being a fish out of water. You've been living subjectively your entire life. When you shift your thinking, a whole new world you weren't aware of becomes visible. This is real change.
Identity
Who are you? It's a sneaky, deep question. Most people will answer with their name, characteristics about themselves, and/or their various roles. None of these are you. But nonetheless you are identifying yourself as these things. This 1:1 work helps you get clear on all the roles you're in (a lot) and helps you see yourself in a brand-new, liberating way.
Breaking the Self-Sabotage Loop
Self-sabotage can show up in various ways: under-achieving, procrastination, downplaying, detachment, etc. There are three distinct types of self-sabotage that will become completely clear and obvious as you start this 1:1 work. "What you're aware of you're in control of. What you're not aware of is in control of you."
A new normal
Compulsive to Intentional
Raise your hand if you've ever been a child. All hands go up. It's a simple way to start understanding just what conditioning is. It's also a gentle reminder that everyone has been a child.
The shift from compulsive to intentional isn't about trying harder or thinking more. It's about getting clear on 'what you want' rather than 'what you don't want.' It's subtle but a very powerful distinction. It's like shifting the focus of your eyes- subtle and every so slight, but a world of difference.
A child's life is not their own. Often, they need to get approval and permission from others in order to be able to do 'what they want.' This is the simplest form of childhood conditioning. To shift out of this in adulthood takes a slightly new focus. Instead of compulsively putting others' needs and wants before your own, you start to intentionally get clear on what it is you're actually wanting without deferring to others first.
Therapist for Gifted Adults
About Jesse
Jesse King is a dual-licensed psychotherapist who specializes in working with smart, high-functioning adults. Jesse's techniques and methodolgies are unique to his practice. To learn more and see what client's have to say, please click the links below.
- Dual-licensed psychotherapist (LMFT-A #205918, LPC-A #97301)
- Creator of Emotional Agency™ framework
- All sessions are conducted online over Zoom
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"The mind is a wonderful servant, but a terrible master." — Robin Sharma