Emotional Agency™

What Is Emotional Agency™?

The only person that makes you feel is you.

Agency is a sense of control. It’s a felt sense, like confidence but deeper. It’s a knowing of what you’re capable of.

Someone with low agency blames their surroundings. Someone with high agency simply finds a way.

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.”

— Henry Ford

You’ve been building agency your whole life. As a child, you couldn’t go where you wanted. Now you decide to stand up, and you stand up. You decide to drive across town, and you go. That’s physical agency.

As a child, you were told what to think. Now you decide to think about your weekend, and you think about your weekend. You decide to solve a problem at work, and you solve it. That’s mental agency.

Then your boss sends a short email, and your whole afternoon is gone. Your partner uses a certain tone, and you’re Mad before you know why. You lie awake running through a meeting that hasn’t happened yet.

So what about emotional agency?

Low vs. High

No one makes you feel. Not your boss, not your partner, not the future. Your cognitions generate your emotions, and that means you can change them.

Low Emotional Agency

Your emotions seem to control you. People and circumstances “make” you feel. You worry about an imagined future that doesn’t exist.

High Emotional Agency

You know you’re the one making you feel. Your worries, anxieties, and fears reduce to one problem you can solve. You create your reality intentionally, not compulsively.

The 8 Tenets

This is the roadmap. Eight lessons, each one building on the last. By the end, the way you relate to your emotions won’t look anything like it does today.

1. 01

   The Chain Reaction

   How a single moment reveals beliefs you didn’t know you had. The world truly is a mirror.

2. 02

   Primary Emotions

   Emotions, demystified once and for all. You’ll start to see how deep your childhood conditioning really goes.

3. 03

   The Predicament

   This is where the paradigm shift happens. Like a fish out of water for the first time.

4. 04

   The Charade

   An absurd pretense hiding in how you use your emotions. Yes, use. Your emotions have utility.

5. 05

   One Problem

   The root cause of every symptom. Change your conditioning here and you’re a free person.

6. 06

   Your Compass

   Your One Problem comes in two distinct forms. Learn to read them and they point to exactly what to work on.

7. 07

   Safety vs. Security

   At first glance they feel interchangeable. They’re worlds apart. This is the step out of childhood conditioning and into adulthood.

8. 08

   Aware of Both. Focused on One.

   Two points of awareness, one point of focus. Simple, powerful, and an instant mindset shift.