TLDR
Therapy that 'problem solves' keeps you focused on what you don't want. It's self-fulfilling. Getting clear and setting goals will naturally shift your focus.
Results oriented
It’s really quite simple- you can either focus on what you want or what you don’t want.
Therapy and coaching can either focus on your problems or your goals. Either way it’s self-fulfilling. Having goals for yourself, your relationship, or your business will naturally reveal your limitations. Limitations are simply, lack of knowledge, skillset, and/or attitude.
You start seeing all of your behaviors (or lack thereof) as serving a purpose, whether it’s conscious or not. Instead of seeing your behaviors (or lack thereof) as downstream effects. This is the switch from a “victim” mentality (low agency) to a “victor” mentality (high agency).
From compulsive to intentional. From backward looking to forward looking.
Teleology and etiology
- Teleology
- the explanation of phenomena in terms of the purpose they serve
- Etiology
- the explanation of phenomena in terms of the cause by which they arise
Awareness
“What you are aware of you are in control of; what you are not aware of is in control of you.”
— Anthony De Mello
Disclaimer
This article is for educational purposes only. It is not therapy, mental health advice, or a substitute for professional care, and reading it does not create a therapist-client relationship. Jesse King is licensed in Texas. For guidance on your situation, please speak with a licensed professional.
